Refine Your Core Values To Unlock your Full Potential.

Refine Your Core Values To Unlock your Full Potential.

Personal Core Values Refined

Yesterday we discussed how to start to identify your core values. Personal core values refined is part of a discussion which began with an explanation of our ego and has gone on on a daily basis since.

Look at the two columns, the importance of the value and the actual level that you practice it in your everyday life. Write about five sentences about the discrepancy between the two numbers.

Identifying this discrepancy is the first step to rediscover your core values. You have always had core values even if the knowledge of them is buried deep inside yourself. You may have forgotten or are not aware they exist. They have always existed. The ethical thing to do is to isolate your core values and to integrate them with your everyday actions.

Your core values will help you in every aspect of your everyday choices.

Look at the differences you have written above and think about the differences. If the difference is merely one point or even two points, then you can work towards it. It’s more than this then it is unlikely to make a reasonable core value.

Narrow down the core values to 5 different values. Lay the list aside for 24 hours and then come back to it. Think of the three core values that would make you sick to the stomach if you contradict the principles behind them.

Once you have done this, you need to verify if these are the correct core values. Ask yourself the following questions.

1. Conscious Choice
Do I consciously choose these beliefs after careful consideration of what the words mean? Have I looked up the definition in either an online dictionary or a dictionary?

2. Have I Considered the Alternatives?
Have I carefully considered the alternatives before rejecting them. Those that I have dismissed have I done so out of laziness?

3. Am I Prepared to Honour These Beliefs?
Are you happy with the choices you have made and feel that you have made these choices freely with adequate consideration?

4. Am I Willing to Publicly Affirm These Values
Am I secure enough in these values, to stand up and declare that I live by these rules?

5. Am I Ready to Live by These Beliefs?
Not only am I prepared to live with these beliefs but am I ready to act on these beliefs to change the way I live my life. These beliefs will become my values and need to be repeated consistently on a daily basis.

Finally, write down these values. These are the values you are prepared to live by and the values that will give you fulfillment in life. In fact, you may find living by these values will provide you with the only true fulfillment.

Fulfillment is defined here as achieving our deepest desires and fully realizing our potential. As I mentioned a few days ago after years of angst, I realized I was frightened of fulfilling my full potential.

By our own efforts

We create a sense of purpose for ourselves and having worked out that this is my greatest fear, the fear literally fell away. In fact, it is ridiculous to think that I may be frightened of fulfilling my potential.

We all want to fulfill who we really are without fear or a sense of hopelessness, or unworthiness or powerlessness. Some lucky people will achieve this in their 20s, but it is never too late. A lot of people go through life without change and staying in their comfort zone. Eventually, the pain of staying what you are will motivate you to realize that you are not satisfied with the status quo.

You have probably known this fact for a long time and have had the sense of dissatisfaction for ages. However, there is a difference knowing that something is wrong and having the courage to do something about it.

Eventually, most of us realize that to search for our own meaning we have to look deep within ourselves. This internal retrospection motivates us ultimately to make those changes necessary. Don’t beat yourself up if this process has taken years. It took years for me. You may know people who achieved it in days weeks or months. So what? This is your journey and no one else’s.

You have all the time in the world. Time is not your problem. To achieve your full potential, you need to bring balance into your life.

Looking inside yourself creates balance. Aspects you are searching for personal growth, learning, being healthy and also spiritualism. Developing insights into these areas all come from looking inwards.

Your ego will always force you to look outwards for satisfaction.


This journey is not a race against time or anything else. It is your journey, and in or respects it has been going on since the beginning of time and will continue indefinitely.

You have all the time you need to achieve your full potential. Your biggest enemy will be your ego. The ego always wants you to look externally for your satisfaction in life. It is trying to protect you, but it doesn’t live in the present. It cannot know that the things it is trying to protect you from more important when you were a child but are not necessarily important now.

It doesn’t want us to face our limiting beliefs or habitual thinking patterns, because in doing so it will force us to change our perspective on life. We would have to accept responsibility for all our actions.

Once you take this step the power of the ego will be reduced, and it will in time become redundant. Don’t make the mistake of ever thinking you can get rid of ego; you can’t it is part of your personality. However, you can minimize its importance.

The results of looking inwards ultimately mean that we feel joy, unconditional love, and gratitude for the life we lead. Because we have expanded our potential in the way, we think we are more open to new ideas and challenges. It is this falling away from limiting beliefs and opening our hearts that will allow us to fulfill our full potential.

Born Free

Born Free

Born Free

“Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains”
Jean Jacques Rousseau

My freedom can never be the same as your freedom. But the essence of freedom is a universal truth. If you can live free, then you can learn to experience life fully.

Freedom is full of surprises. Laughter bubbles up inside of you spontaneously and for absolutely no reason. You can dare to say what you think and what you feel honestly. At the same time, you are not afraid of listening to other people who think differently.

Listening to the views of people who think differently from yourself doesn’t threaten your security. This is because you are secure enough and authentic enough to know what your own core beliefs are and you stick with them.

One thing that freedom has brought for me is the fact that I can live in the universe and trust in myself, even though I may not understand either.

I don’t have to conform to other people’s rules. Security in myself allows me to make my own rules. The power to live free has freed me from the addiction of alcohol. Also as I continue my spiritual journey, it has become more important what I eat.


Eating Clean Is a Liberating Experience


For the last month or so I have transferred my diet to raw food. Most days I eat hundred percent raw. Yesterday, it was freezing, and I felt the need for hot food. I had the usual raw breakfast, raw lunch and a huge raw salad for dinner. I also had a three egg mushroom omelet.

Still it was clean food and also avoiding carbohydrates except those found in fruit and veg. I no longer eat potatoes, pasta, bread, rice. This cleaner food has improved my spiritual connection. I have also made every day some alkaline water. I add fresh organic lemons and lime to tap water which has been boiled and cooled. Then I add 1/2 an organic cucumber peeled and handfuls of fresh herbs. Any soft herb will work well.

Liberation does give you more challenges. That might seem a bit of double edge sword. Greater synchronicity is an advantage, and it makes it easier to follow your path and your life’s purpose. Without this knowledge from synchronicity, it is all so easy to follow your shadow life. On the other hand, there are more challenges because you want to achieve. My eyes are now open opened to what I can achieve what I want to achieve. I have now to overcome the challenges to make this a reality.


The Choices


The choices that I have made towards freedom of thought have resulted in personal growth. A conscious effort towards expanding our outlook on life requires a clear conception of who we are and what we want.

Some people understand personal growth as more time to pursue their own interests and live life as they see fit. Fortunately, I have done that all my life so that was not my challenge.

I wanted to understand myself better. It was important to me to be authentic to my true self and find out my core values.

I also wanted to expand my consciousness. I wanted to be a channel for higher energies. I also wanted to understand more fully my life’s purpose. To do that I had to connect with myself.

When I was ready to do these things it was strange how easy it was to do. It was hard to believe how fear and complacency could hold me back for so long.

In the end, my desire to prove I had a new identity as a widow, rather than a wife drove me forward. I wanted to contribute something of value to other people.

Appreciation and Joy

Living free has given me a sense that I can give things away and appreciate things. A few days ago I was walking home with a bunch of flowers. It wasn’t a large bunch. It was for a small arrangement. The colors were magnificent a deep red. A little girl of about eight stopped me and said: “your flowers are beautiful.” I asked if she really thought so and she said yes. So, I gave them to her.

She looked delighted, but her mother looked embarrassed. She said to me that the child didn’t mean she wanted them. I laughed and said, “that doesn’t mean she can’t have them.”

I knew that by the very act of giving I would have more things given to me. It’s an acknowledgment that the universe will provide everything I need in life. A random act of kindness gave me great joy.

Learning to live free is starting to give me more balance in my life. It has increased synchronicity so that I know what I want to do. Eventually it will in time give me more confidence, happiness, and success.

It will also give me some conflict. I know that when those adverse situations occur, I will have to make a choice. I will have to decide whether to go along on my chosen path or whether to reassess the situation. Either way, I am in control. It is my choice when I decide to do.

The Driving Forces

What drives me to do this is the fact that since being widowed I have become very insular. I am sure that this is a normal part of grieving. However, in my case, it has meant days if not weeks isolated and alone. I haven’t minded this at all! In fact, I’ve enjoyed it, but eventually, my outward circumstances must change.

Tomorrow I will discuss how to define your core values so that you can change the way you think and learn to live freely. It will be a challenge, but you will find it in the long term highly rewarding. You will find peace and contentment that you hadn’t realized was missing from your life.

Living Free For Growth

Living Free For Growth

What Living Free Means

When I was younger I thought living free meant living in a country with an elected government, the freedom to be free to speak your mind. The freedom to have a passport as of right, and the freedom to travel wherever and whenever you wanted to. There was a bit more to it than that, but I was thinking along those lines. The concept of Living Free For Growth, never entered my mind

Today, I realize that those definitions of living free are external freedoms. That realization led to a quest for inner freedom, this journey began three years ago. In the process, I have become liberated from self-doubt and fear. I do appreciate it is still a work in progress, but most of the time I enjoy that inner freedom. I am learning to trust my inner voice and my instincts and just be.

The rare times that fear does grip me, I am in a much better placed to deal with it. I can immediately change the way I think. That in itself was so liberating.


The results

Three fabulous results have come about with this work, and that is in no particular order-

Compassion – An increased compassion for everything.

Understanding what really frightens me.more of this later

Personal growth

Freedom for me now is not an ideal it is a living experience and a living journey. The quantum leap to freedom didn’t happen accidentally.

First of all, I practiced meditating daily every morning and every evening. From the very beginning of my journey, I managed to manifest the best people to help me. That made things a lot easier. None the less it was a steep learning curve, and I had to quickly and accurately what was true and what wasn’t.

Gradually my meditation techniques got better and after a year or maybe more, the synchronicity started to happen, My journey has not been linear it has involved steps forward and back. Only last week I had a breakthrough, a quantum leap into the world the other side of the veil.

One thing which always managed to elude me was what I was most afraid of? I looked and searched inside myself to no avail. That question cost me so much pain and angst I couldn’t believe it. Nor could I understand why I couldn’t uncover it. Then like all breakthroughs the answer came like a bolt out of the blue. No pain, no tension no struggle, just the answer.

The answer was so deceptively simple. I could not for the life of me understand why it had caused me so much pain and fear.

What Was I So Afraid Of?

Believe it or not, I was afraid of my potential. Not even fulfilling my potential just my potential.

As always with these breakthroughs, the universe conspires to give you the answer when you are ready. To be truthful I think it’s ready to give it to you all along, but you are not ready to receive it. However, when it does deliver, it knocks the door down.

Firstly I met Pamela Aaralyn in London a few weeks ago, and she recommended that we sing the ho’oponopono. I had always said it but never sung it. I tried to sing it, but I found I couldn’t make a note. The reasons why you can read in the next few paragraphs

Secondly, I met a new lady at my Saturday morning meditation classes. After class, we were talking about a few of us going to choir practice to learn to sing. I happened to say that I was asked to stop singing in school when I was about 11. The singing teacher told me to mime and never as long as I lived to sing another note.

F, the new lady said that as I was telling her the story she had a vision in her head of a jealous teacher. She could not bear the joy in my voice and shut me up!

A few days later I had a health kinesiology session with my teacher, and I had no specific issue to work on. She said we will work out what the body wants to work on, and there is always something to work on.

It turned out that the issue I needed to correct was “having no voice” I had several corrections to make one of them involved putting magnets on my throat. The process unusually for health kinesiology was extremely uncomfortable. I can’t say it was painful, but it did feel bizarre and uncomfortable.

The Breakthrough

So it was after these three events that the blinding flash of honesty about what frightened me came to light.

Don’t despair if you are working toward spiritual enlightenment. It doesn’t happen overnight it happens with practice. The critical thing to realize is to set aside the time to practice your meditation. None of us are born with the ability to shut down our thoughts for half an hour at a time, or more.

The only way we can really find out about ourselves is to go through this introspection. The answer will be different for all of us in the process will not be the same for any of this. Nonetheless, as a rough guide, the same principles apply to all. You need to look inwards and find your own truths!

I’m not too Into routines of having to do things the same way blah de blah, rituals are part of the programming. They don’t help!

Be Authentic

One thing I have learned you have to trust yourself to be able to answer what you need. To do that you need 1st to look inside yourself and see where your feelings and emotions are coming from. After that, you have to learn to control those thoughts.

By controlling the ideas that you have in your head and reducing the number of negative things that you say to yourself. Words like won’t, can’t, shan’t et cetera. Once you have control of these words and think more positive words, then you change your emotions.

You don’t have to be on a spiritual journey to understand this! Although I guess if you’re reading this far into my blog you have been reading for some time and are on a spiritual journey. You know that when you cry with sadness, you feel very heavy. It makes your eyes ache in your head thump. When you are laughing, or that is still giggling you feel light. It’s the same principle here change the way you think and looks inside, and eventually, you will learn and earn the freedom to live life on your own terms.

Id, Ego, Superego

Id, Ego, Superego

What Is Ego?


What is ego?

My guess is if you any number of people what ego is?, You will get as many answers as people. To me, the ego is a protective mechanism.

It protects in many ways some of which are useful in some less so. It allows us to project to other people an appearance that we know what we are doing. We’ve got life sussed! Id, Ego, Superego are all words we understand for our benefit.

The dark side of the ego is that it constructs a false identity. Who and what we are is a combination of what we think, our abilities, our skills, personality, and our memories.

Ego hates to change it can only live in the now. It thinks is protecting us by creating this shower of negative thoughts, self-limiting thoughts. Because this will reinforce inertia, which the ego uses to keep us acting as we have always done.

These limiting thoughts can only define us if we let them. Having said that, the ego is smart. It can hide behind opinions we have held virtually all our lives all our lives and descriptions of ourselves we have heard all our lives!

The other downside of ego is it leaves a trail of emotional chaos in its wake! Feelings of resentment, indignation, and anger, the need to impress others and feelings of insecurity. The ego loves drama feeds on negative thoughts.

These negative thoughts stop us from progressing and stepping into our greatness. These beliefs are simply the structures of our ego. When we let these beliefs define us, we are allowing the ego to win.

The False Identity


Understanding the ego is problematic for two reasons. You can’t see it, and it is different and every person. It hides behind the curtain of opinions and thoughts we appear to think is true.

We all recognize the ego In other people. We can even tell what behavior it is masking. We’ve all been into her room and in that room is “the big I am.” The swaggering guy that has to project a massive sense of superiority onto everybody. We can see that by forcing his superiority onto everyone else, he thinks we won’t notice his insecurities.

Yet often we fail to see ego in our own personality and actions. If we want to develop as a person, it is essential that we take into account other people’s opinions. We need to understand inclusion rather than exclusion.

Ego tends to make us reject the opinions of others, and it restricts our vision so we cannot see anything other than our own thoughts and perceptions and limited beliefs.

One of the most deceptive aspects of an ego is that it generates powerful emotional reactions and then blames us how it made us feel. We often project anger which is the ego telling us we should feel right, we know better than someone else. We ignore this knowledge and then prevent personal growth.

The ego has to rely on the familiar it will do anything to prevent experiencing the unknown. It protects us by keeping us in our comfort zone. If we stray out of the area where we comfortable we may have to come from the, we not as terrific as we think we are. The ego thinks this is a scary concept.

Ego is an Unhealthy Attachment to Ourselves.

We make an active choice to allow ourselves to let the ego rulers. We resent the idea that any part of our thoughts is inferior to another. When faced with an opposing opinion we show negative emotions. We are either argumentative or angry or intimidating. We do what we have to do to subdue the ideas of others. This choice makes us weak. People who have real confidence do not have the problem to listen to the people.

People with real confidence allow their actions to speak for themselves. They don’t need to persuade people of their superiority. They don’t need to prove their ideas are better. Confident people don’t get threatened by teamwork and cooperation. They have no problem standing outside of their comfort zone because they know that they will fulfill whatever test they need to do.

They can listen to other people take into account what they have to say and are not threatened by it. It’s only when ego steps in that we fear what other people think about us.

That’s the difference ego leads us ultimately to pain and hurt, and confidence leads us to a peaceful existence.

Make the Choice – Drop Your Ego

The only real way to reduce the power of our egos is to let go. We are attached to our own opinions, and this is a dangerous state. No one should be so connected to anything they can’t let it go.

This doesn’t mean we disrespectful of our opinions! It says we’re open to the possibility of listening to new ideas and forming new opinions. We open our hearts to listen to others honestly and openly.

We can’t get rid of ego, but this openness transcends it. Often superior people have a sense of arrogance as well. Most people react to this with disrespect.

If you are as good as you think you are the world will see it anyway. That will resonate with this confidence because it brings peace.

Being confident will attract like-minded people and people who are attempting to reach your elevated position. People who are confident without being egotistical have a sense of joy and peace. They will attract other people who are joyful and peaceful. That will increase the synchronicity in their lives.

On the other hand, arrogant people will bring more arrogant people into their lives who will try to bring them down a peg or two.

Choose to Change

You can change your life at any time and in any way that you want to. However, you have to make a choice. Doing nothing or hoping that your life will get better will not achieve change.

This is why so few people make long-term change. It takes effort and commitment and energy. The thought of having a more abundant life is appealing to most people. The action of choosing to make that happen defeats a lot of people.

We need to become proactive. When we are reactive, we respond to other people’s tunes. We allow other people to be the puppet masters pulling strings.

To make an effective change, we need to let the ego go, pay very close attention to our thoughts and affirm that we have the power to change our lives.

Every day we have the option to make thousands of choices. In a lot of cases, we do not choose at all.

It’s also straightforward if we make a choice to have unreal expectations. We choose to be rich and one that doesn’t happen we think we made the wrong choice.

The unreal expectations generate a sense of fear, and we make fewer choices because we frightened of making the wrong decision.

Being proactive

Being proactive means, you take the choice to live your life to the full. You have made the steps to find out who you really are and you are confident standing tall.

Affirmations Self Esteem

Affirmations Self Esteem

Affirmations Self Esteem

Make Them Real

If you look around the Internet, you can see affirmations self-esteem almost everywhere you look. Yesterday, we discussed affirmations, in the sense that they are not manifestations.

There is, however, a way of changing your mindset as to how you feel about something. To do that your affirmations have to be true to you. It is best that you write or construct your own declarations rather than choose someone else’s.

When you speak these affirmations out loud, the timba of your voice has its own specific sound. If it’s not something you believe or want to think specifically, then nothing will happen.

I have chosen in this example to construct around affirmations self-esteem because everyone has self-esteem issues and limiting beliefs about self-worth.

Constructing an Affirmation Specifically for You

As we discussed yesterday, affirmations on their own are not a manifestation tool. They are a tool to change your mindset. As such, you have to believe what you are saying. Which is the reason why you should always construct your own affirmations?

For instance, if you Google self-esteem affirmations you will see thousands of examples. This morning I noticed a guy who was selling books of affirmations and the basis of those affirmations was completely him himwrong.Affirmations Self Esteem 2

One example was
“I can be worthy.”


My first question would be but when can you be worthy? Your affirmation should always be in the present tense. You don’t want to be changing your mindset in the year 2038!

My second question would be, worthy of what? It’s half a statement! It needs something to qualify.

My third point would be the words “I can be.” We can all be, but an affirmation should not contain the word can. It means maybe. To change the mindset you need to convince yourself you believe it.

A better example would be

“I feel worthy and blessed.”

Don't over Complicate Your Affirmations

A good affirmation should come from your heart. My first point of reference is to look at the problem.

For instance, let’s go back to yesterday’s example. I don’t exercise enough. I leave the house when I have absolutely nothing to eat. I I’m aware on logical level that I need to exercise and move more.

Now I can think about this problem until the cows come home and it won’t make me exercise. BUT, I want you to think about what it would feel to be without the problem. I hate exercise, but that’s not the problem.

My problem is I feel overweight and bloated and without energy. That is the real problem.

So not to have that problem then him I would feel that I am fit and healthy and my body moves fluidly. I imagine that my body is moving freely and easily.

Write down what you would feel if you could solve the problem. So I might write, I am healthy.

My body is nourished by eating healthy food and exercise.

I do a healthy amount of exercise regularly.

I feel good about myself and my body.

My body is strong and healthy and nourished.

My body is my servant, and it works hard to keep me fit and healthy.

You will notice that all of these statements refer to me because they begin with the word “I” or “my.” That makes it very clear I’m talking about my body and my health and not someone else’s.

Leave Anger and Judgment out of the Equation

I definitely don’t want to have any issues around anger. I don’t want to have the thought that I am angry at myself for being lazy.

Anger is another way of telling my body I hate IT! I don’t hate it; I just want to feel better.

My cells understand every thought I think. It’s important that they think that they are loved and cherished. To keep me in optimum health they need to know I deserve it. It is my birthright to be healthy.

My body knows how to heal itself, and I understand that. I feed it healthy food and drink. Good health comes from love, gratitude, and appreciation. It doesn’t come from beating yourself up for being lazy, or a couch potato, or being fat. I don’t want to feel like a victim, and it is my choice not to give my body what it deserves, i.e. exercise. My body reacts in terms of my posture, it’s ease or dis-ease.

Be Present and Positive with Your Affirmations.

When writing affirmations use present tense verbs. Examples are

I am healthy
My Exertions
I am feeling

You can get your affirmations so wrong. Affirmations self-esteem are about changing the way you think about yourself. When you believe you can manifest it. First, you have to believe it
I hear
My vision
I know
I look


The reason is it is in the present tense is that you don’t want affirmation to bring about a change sometime in the future. You need to change the way you feel about the statement now. It’s only when you believe the statement that you will be able to feel it and eventually manifest it.


Make sure that the word you describe the verb is emotive
I am grateful
I am happy
My health
I am inspired
I am thrilled

Don’t Forget the Senses

I am heard
I am comforted
I am cherished.

Affirmations Cheatsheet

1. Begin with “I” or “my”

2. Use a present tense verb

3. An adjective describes a verb. Make sure that your adjective is an inspiring and emotional rather than insipid.

4. Fill in the description of the results that you desire

Personal Power – Grab it Back

Personal Power – Grab it Back

Grabbing your Personal Power

Thought creation is a reality. A lot of people in your life will tell you that your fate is not in your control. If you believe you cannot control your own destiny, then you have given up your own power.

You have made it easy for the people to manipulate you. When people manipulate you, they create their own reality. Grab your power back because you have the freedom to choose.

There are lots of people you may be able to think of who have grown up in the worst of circumstances and have become well-known and elect respected figures. Almost against all odds, they changed their reality.

Focus on what you want

To make these changes a reality you have to focus on what you want. You do not want to be thinking this cannot happen or how will this happen just trust that it will happen.

On the other hand, you can create your reality from your memories. You do not come out of your comfort zone you stay in the ” What do I know best?” reality.

As you are reading this, you can make a conscious decision to change your personal universe. When our behaviors match our intentions, and our actions are what we think about there is immense power in our thoughts.

You can create your own little portion of heaven or your own corner in hell. The choice is yours.

Obviously, to control this power, you need to manage your thoughts. There will be no room in your life and negativity such as anger, jealousy, ego or

You Have All The Answers You Need

Inside of you are all the answers that you will ever need. You may not be able to tap into these answers or even know that they are there. You need the knowledge, tools, and wisdom to get what you want to be.

The first concept is you are an integral part of this universe and everything in it. You are an immensely powerful human being.

It may well be that your culture and your beliefs are reading this and thinking “not me, I don’t deserve any of this.”

So for the moment, you are as powerful as your perception allows you to be. But no matter how powerless and worthless you feel you are you can change this in an instant.

Ignite the Change

Most of us think about 50,000 thoughts per day. It only takes one of those thoughts to ignite the change that you are looking for It’s like we have created our own personal nuclear power plant in our head. We create chain reactions. One thought leads to another. Unfortunately, the second thought and the third door often qualifies the first thought. In other words, we think we might like to do something or want something, and then subsequent thoughts talk yourself out of it.

We are most frightened of is how powerful we are. If you don’t believe me read Marianne Williamson’s poem below.

Our Greatest Fear —Marianne Williamson

it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Most of us are afraid of the choice, that is making a choice. In fact, most of you reading this will go on to make a passive decision – the option of doing nothing.

Most of the time it’s the same three things that stop is moving forward.

Limiting Beliefs.

Thinking the same old thoughts every day.

Our perception of ourselves.

Who do you think you are?

Whatever you think, Is loaded with limited beliefs. The subconscious stores limited beliefs, and it holds on to them because it hates change. It will do everything in its power to keep you as you are.

To overcome the circumstantial evidence that you built about yourself you have to change the way you think. Once you change the way, you think you change your life.

It’s not an easy path to change you have to swallow your pride and get all your ego. You also have to really want to change. Removing your negative emotions, your fears, and your anger takes a lot of work.

Just when you think you have conquered this negativity, it pops up somewhere else. One of the reasons it keeps cropping up is the people and situations around you. These people surround us because our ego will not accept we have created the situation to draw these people to us

I have been fortunate to spend 16 years traveling the world. During that time I have come to appreciate that every human being is looking for the same thing. That same thing is happiness. Happiness is a choice rather than a condition.

Negativity is Your Comfort Blanket

If you wake up in the morning, and your thoughts are immediately negative. Then your day will be negative. Feeling sad, deprived and unhappy has become a habit.

You can’t seriously expect something to change in your life without changing your outward circumstances with a single thought. You do not have to be a victim of habitual thinking. However, it can be a hard slog to change that.

The first thing we need to do is make a conscious decision to abandon old habits. There are lots of habits you have in your life that no longer serve you and you need to let them go.

The second part is to create a conscious decision to make a new life and new thoughts.

It is our perception of our life that will determine how happy and joyful each day will be. Perception is the capacity to view things in their true or relative importance. The true or relative significance is important because it means we get to choose what is important.

J Martin Kohe

“The greatest power that a person possesses is the power to choose.”

Choice is all around us, and yet most the time we don’t do it consciously. Just think when you wake up in the morning and get out of bed and have a shower and clean your teeth and get dressed. How many choices do you make?

We decide whether to have an extra 10 seconds in bed, shall we clean our teeth first, so we shall first. You get the picture! The point I’m making is that most of us make these decisions on autopilot from habitual stands.

This reaction is one of the reasons why we have a perception of ourselves as powerless and unworthy. We are not conscious of our choices.

Everything we do in life is a choice.

Most of us understand that, but we failed to take into account the power of the choices we don’t make. That is the choices of things not to do.

Don’t get me wrong; there are many times in life when doing nothing is the best course of action. That’s one thing though choosing to do nothing. Not doing anything out of fear or from a place of fear is a different decision entirely.

To change things you need a single thought which is a choice in the single-action which is a choice.

For instance, if you just lost your job through no fault of your own, there are several ways of looking at the situation.

The first is looking at it, but it’s not your fault you didn’t do anything and everything that always happens to you. The outcome of this sort is the more negative things are going to happen to you because this is the thought you are holding and resisting.

The second choice is that you’re looking outwards onto a whole field of possibilities. You can see grass growing in the field. At the edges you can see wildflowers. You can see butterflies and insects flying around. What you do first is up to you. You can gaze at the butterflies, or you can walk on the grass, or you can pick some flowers.

The second option is far more expansive it gives you possibilities. Changing your thoughts immediately is not easy, but you have to take control of it sometime if you want some change. What’s wrong with today?