Understanding Ourseves Is Vital For Human Growth

Understanding Ourseves Is Vital For Human Growth

Understanding Ourseves.

All permanent growth, personal growth, in my opinion, comes from knowing and understanding ourselves. I believe that if we don’t truly understand ourselves that we can’t really understand external events and physical things. We are always drawn into negative actions and get attached to things. If we don’t understand ourselves then we can’t possibly understand others.

Drawing back this curtain of self-deception is undoubtedly not an easy thing to do especially when you first start. Not only is it difficult, but it is also painful because we have to expose ourselves to the misconceptions we have about ourselves. In fact, many people may well ask why would anyone bother to do it– surely we are better staying in our comfort zones.

I would say that understanding our true natures means giving up destructive emotions and also eventually giving up the pain. Pain is not a necessary emotion we have to feel to experience life to the full. However, to get past the feeling of pain, we do have to come out of our comfort zone!

In three weeks time, it will be 100 years to the minute on the 11th of the 11th 2018 since the first world war ended. I grew up in the 50s with the description that this was a war to end all wars. Yet it seems to me 60 years later that we are no nearer to peace than we were then.

When I was a child, it was a very different world I understand that not everyone had a television nor a car. Yet it seems to me we lived in a world where we felt safe. I grew with children who didn’t fear! Today when I watched children I believe that they have a deep-seated sense of fear. I am not sure they even know what their concern is about but that sense of dread in itself is worrying for the future of humanity.

We Can’t Live With Fear and Be Happy

It strikes me that happiness itself has mental and physical aspects. It is a combination of inner peace, security, economic viability, and world peace. Establishing these ideals should be a collective responsibility. Wherever we live, where ever we come from, wherever we were born, whatever religion we practice or don’t practice, we all want to be happy. We all want the same thing. We don’t wish to suffer for ourselves or our loved ones.

We shouldn’t settle to watch suffering on any level. Not every one of us can be born a human. It is a choice that we make. An opportunity to live and experience the world with bodies. Everyone on the planet faces the same collective problems, and we should be looking to secure peace collectively.

The First Step Is Forgiveness

My most significant achievement so far in my own personal growth is to open up my heart and forgive. I have forgiven anyone who has ever harmed myself or my family. Forgiveness itself is cathartic. I have found; personally, it has opened up my heart, and I am much more compassionate towards every living thing.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that I’ve accepted other people’s actions as being okay. I can’t change those actions. Indeed, forgiveness doesn’t mean I’m saying that I condone their actions. It just means I have let go of the right to judge those actions. If we can’t forgive other people, then the resulting hatred and bitterness and anger consume us all.

I was honestly making myself ill by judging others. It doesn’t mean I even have to see the people I have forgiven. The very act of forgiveness brings a feeling of peace in itself. I am not wasting any negative energy or in fact any energy deciding how I think about it. Letting go of the emotion is enough. I can live in harmony with the people I forgave without having to see them. In fact there is no reason why our lives should ever have to cross again.

That means in this life and in future lives. Hopefully, it says I have literally learned my lesson. When we see things wrong in other people, or we see things that irritate us, we are looking at mirror images of ourselves. We are each other! I am the same is my brothers and sisters we are all one.

Those that know me to know that I am not a religious person I do not believe in a God. Nonetheless, I do have tremendous sympathy with the Buddhist philosophy that all our troubles stem from an attachment to things we think are permanent.

In the pursuit of our own happiness, we can be aggressive and competitive with our fellow human beings. We think that just because we have the money to pay for human resources such as water, fresh air, and any material thing that we want that it is okay to have them.

Although there are a lot of people think about their human footprint on this earth there are many many more that don’t. People who think they can have anything that they want and squander resources are ignorant of life as it really is. The relentless pursuit of individual materialism is inhuman.

The humane antidote is unconditional love. You may well think that you love your close family unconditionally. Often you don’t, and the love is based on attachment rather than altruism. We need to foster a sense of natural and unlimited love and compassion towards everyone, including those who have done you harm or even great harm.

All of us can realize that at the beginning of life when we are young, we are dependent on the love and compassion of others. We need our mothers to breastfeed us, or someone to feed us. Many of us as we age will require kindness and compassion from other people to survive. That may be our families, and that may be other people who simply care. In my world, it is inconceivable that if we can see that we need people at the beginning and end of our lives that we can ignore people in our middle years.

We are all born compassionate and altruistic it is an innate human characteristic. That means that we are born with that ability. Of course, it is very pragmatic in the days when we had smaller tribal families it was a matter of survival. We helped other people to survive because even if our descendants didn’t survive our brothers and sisters descendants might do so.

In other words, the family will go on. Because we are born with that sense of compassion, it is one of the reasons why compassionate acts rarely hit the headlines. We see every night acts of violence on the television or read about them in the newspaper. That is because these acts are truly shocking to our very nature.

When we can separate ourselves from the judgment of all things and lose our sense of attachment we can look at life with a clear mind. When we cloud our minds with hatred, anger, jealousy and any other negative emotion we’ve already lost. We lost control of ourselves and also of our judgments. In those irrational moments, anything can happen including war and murder. Which is why we must strip back our nature so we can understand ourselves and every other human being on this planet. Very shortly in the future, our very survival as humans may well depend

Rich Man, Poor Man, Beggar Man, Thief

Rich Man, Poor Man, Beggar Man, Thief

We Are Born To Be Abundant

Our birthright is to be abundant. Because we are connected to the divine we are co-creators and we may create anything that we wish.

We can attract anything you want into our lives, it is up to us to create it. You have heard the expression be careful what you wish for. For very good reason because as co-creators what we think about is what we get.

Your thoughts today will be many. Every minute thousands of thoughts will go through your head. Whatever these thoughts are they will translate into feelings. Which of these thoughts will you feel today?

You have two choices today you can focus on what you don’t have and consequently you are thinking of lack which you will bring into your life today. Paucity is thinking poverty thoughts.


Prosperity is a way of living and thinking and not just having the money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking and not just a lack of money and things.
~ Eric Butterworth


Rich man

My connection to the infinite intelligence of the universe and myself is expanding every day.

I do wonderful work, in a wonderful way with wonderful people for wonderful pay.

I don’t need outside validation to know that I am perfect just the way I am.

My life is filled with grace and ease and I wonder how much more I can receive today?

Every day in every way I am opening my heart to become more prosperous.

I don’t love anything so much that I can’t let go of it.

My authentic self is whole and complete, I am self-accepting because what I see is perfect.

The universe will provide everything I need today.

Today will be filled with love and joy because I was thankful all the love and joy I received yesterday and will receive tomorrow

I allow only good things to come into my life today and I love them with all my heart

Today I wonder what it’s like to drop all resistance to prosperity so that it will come to me naturally

The whole of the universe and everything in it is conspiring with me today to create abundance in my life.

From this moment I will sink only thoughts and ideas that will heal, bless, inspire and strengthen me.

Today I choose to release my self-imposed limitations and remember I have a phenomenal mind which appreciates the connection to my higher self.

Everything I need comes to me effortlessly.

Poor man

The peace and fulfilment I see in others are not for me.

I am too tired to dream of changing my life.

My parents didn’t love me because I am unlovable.

I am different from everybody else because I’m separate from them.

My critical inner voice is the only voice I should be listening to. It’s the only voice which is true because it tells me what’s wrong with me.


I don’t deserve to be showered with money

I stand and watch other people be happy because they have things I don’t have.

I allow myself to be repressed today because I will repress and suppress my feelings.

Perfect health his brother people.

Every day I allow myself to feel worse.

I am waiting to be happy.

My pain will never leave me because it’s part of me.

I will close my mind and my heart to joy.


I am sick and tired of being sick and tired

I am unworthy, I don’t deserve to be loved

If only I was thin I could be happy.

i ican never make life better.

My job is killing me.

I am too lazy to find out what my core values are.

I prefer to hide behind my shadow self.

I am beyond healing.

Don’t you realise I’m too old to change?
This is really hard I can’t do it.

Life is a constant struggle.

The word affirmation means to affirm. Even if you are creating something massive and expansive you can see results in a very short period of time just by changing what you think which in turn changes what you feel which in turn creates a different attitude which in turn opens your heart to new opportunities.

If you are continuously affirming and not seeing any positive change then you are clinging on and not letting go on a subconscious level to things which no longer serve you. Read this here about letting go.


One of the ways that you can bring abundance into your life is to write a gratitude journal. I have been doing this for several years now when I started it was difficult.

Every day I write down three things for which I am grateful for, if you would like to join me I have just put it on my website. Prior to this I, was in a private WhatsApp group. Let me know what you have to be grateful for today.

Sharing gratitude spreads abundance and love. We only write about three things because sometimes it reminds us to think about the small things like home-made soup rather than I received a cheque for my birthday today

The Mechanics Of Letting Go.

The Mechanics Of Letting Go.

The Mechanics of Letting Go

The amount of baggage we carry around as humans is absolutely unbelievable. Most of us spend most of our lives running around to avoid that big block of fear in our solar plexus.

In fact, the human condition can be defined as the essential struggle to escape our inner fears. We are frightened to examine those fears because they are caught up in such massive amounts of negativity.

The Mechanics of Letting Go

We inherently fear the consequences of opening that Pandora’s box of fear. If we open it, we will literally be overwhelmed by despair. We feel we have no conscious method of dealing with those fears if they were to come up.

Consequentially  deep down in our subconscious, we long for death. We think that death will bring an end to all our pain.

Our Mind Has No Dimensions

In actual fact, our mind has no dimensions. It has no width or breadth or size. The mind is not limited in space it can transmit its vibrational energy across unlimited distances. Whether we know it or not every day we affect others by our emotional states and thoughts. All of our emotions and the vibrational energy field which disrupts the lives of those around us. One of the basic rules of the universe is that we attract what we most repress. When we repress a feeling, there is so much guilt and fear attached to that feeling that we instantly thrust it away the second it is felt. The mind then has methods of keeping these feelings repressed. Repressed grief, for instance, will unconsciously bring sad events into our lives. Repressed anger will project itself has infuriating circumstances that wind you up on every level.

Letting Go Of A Feeling Is An Acknowledgement

The mechanics of letting go of the feeling doesn’t mean we are rejecting it. It means letting the feeling come up, for instance, the feeling of fear. Let fear come up, feel it fully, and let it run its course.Of course, nothing lasts forever  so the feeling will go.

The first step is trying to prevent yourself from modifying that feeling of fear. Don’t resist it, don’t judge it. It’s just a feeling it doesn’t have to be projeced  into your reality.

When you run with the feeling of fear and stop trying to change it or modify it, you can let it go. When you resist that feeling the energy behind it builds up.


Do You Fear Fear Itself?

Most people fear, fear itself. To let go of the feeling of fear you have first got to let go of the guilt about feeling fear. Focus on the feeling of fear rather than your thoughts about fear.

Your thoughts about fear will go around in an endless loop. They are self-enforcing. They will go on and on and on if you let them. This is because you are trying to rationalise the presence of fear.

The feeling of fear doesn’t come from an external force. The external events that you think cause fear are just excuses.

Letting Go Of Attachment

When we are free, we are letting go of attachments. According to the Lord Buddha to surrender all attachments means a feeling of – it’s okay if it happens and it’s okay if it doesn’t.

When most people let go of that attachment they feel lightheadedness. It’s almost like being high. You realise you are not your feelings. The real you the authentic you is merely observing.

You don’t have to identify with these feelings. You realise that in your past you have been the victim of your feelings because you thought those feelings reflected the truth about yourself.

What Is Your Truth?

In reality what you thought was the truth is merely the ego collecting programs thinks it needs for your survival.

Sometimes a feeling can come up again. This is because it is associated with another emotion. The more you clear, the more you will see things clearer.

Another obstacle you will have to letting go is thinking it’s not working. Unfortunately we are not aware most of the time of all the shit we have already cleared.

Quite often it is our closest friends and families who noticed the change in us first. Ironically, we noticed the change in them first. The changes from ourselves ripple out into their consciousness and helps to heal them and we notice that first.

The Ego Will Resist Letting Go

The ego will resist letting go

Let’s go back to a feeling of fear. How do you think fear helps you in life? Your ego will say that it’s a mechanism to keep you safe.

Safe from what?

We are letting go of all the programs that have let us become a victim over time. You are free to let go, but on the other hand nobody’s forcing you to do so.

Dr Wayne Dwyer once said that the magic happens in the space between the thoughts. I like to think that he meant that the magic is the space between the thoughts or more accurately the silent awareness underneath all our thoughts. That silent awareness is the truth that we already know everything we need to know.

It is hard when we are in the grip of fear, or anger, grief or sadness or any other negative emotion to let it go. Once we begin to let go it becomes much easier.

Letting go is a double-edged sword. As we let go more and more we feel better and better and we feel that we have one. Even when we feel great in our energy is very high there are always subtle emotions to surrender. We may not notice them as effectively because they are not screaming at us, but they are there.

Letting Go

Letting Go

Letting Go of Negative Emotions


Letting go

When I first came across Dr. David Hawkins, I fell in love. The first thing I read was “Power versus Force.” I have to say for the first time in my life the beliefs I had made sense. Who is Dr. David Hawkins?

He is the psychiatrist, probably the world’s expert on researching the concept of consciousness and a spiritual teacher.

I have always believed that naming or having a God is entirely irrelevant. There is a power in the universe which is the same power for all human beings. We are all connected in the energy of this power.

Yet, when I came to read “Letting go – The Pathway Surrender,” it was way out there even for me! I attempted to read it on numerous occasions and failed. The sensible option would have been to muscle test why I couldn’t get past page 50. There were two possibilities.

The first possibility was I didn’t need to read it. In the second possibility which I knew in my heart to be the case was the fact I couldn’t face it. I wasn’t ready to let go!

<H2>Acknowledging our smallness</H2>
It takes a great deal of courage and self honesty to see the Smallness within ourselves. By accepting that the human condition has an element of negativity we acknowledge it is part of our experience. Once we accept this, we can let it go. When I couldn’t actually read the book, I wasn’t actually ready to let my ego go. I was intellectually, in practice, it wasn’t going to happen I wasn’t ready for the change.

The pathway to peace, real peace, is allowing our inner self to shine through.

“Be the change you want to see in the world” – Mahatma Gandhi.

Mahatma Gandhi lived during the time we accepted colonialism as normal. It was acceptable to think of some human beings are subnormal. In fact, it was the only way we could justify slavery. How can you justify enslaving someone who is your equal?

Mahatma Gandhi understood David Hawkins philosophy. Because we are all part of the collective consciousness on an energetic level we heal something in ourselves we heal it for everything in the universe. Quite literally by changing ourselves we are able to change the world.
The healing process
As we learn to love ourselves healing occurs on the inside, which brings about healing on the outside which brings about expansion into the universe.

The letting go technique is a pragmatic system allowing us to let go of our attachments. In simplistic terms, this means we can become free from emotional attachments.
The building of our thoughts
Every feeling we have arises from thousands of thoughts. When we live our lives trying to escape from our feelings the suppressed energy creates distress which will eventually result in illness.

It is one thing believing as I do that all illness comes from emotional pain and denying our spirituality. It is another to accept that that denial blocks our spiritual growth and any success we could achieve in life.

At the moment I am only a health kinesiology student, but it’s still possible to see by simple muscle testing, that suppressed emotions overflow into the body’s autonomic nervous system. Examples of these unconscious controls are the productions of hormones, temperature regulations, and control of our bodies heart rate. All of these things go on, on a subconscious level within our bodies. We don’t have to remember to breathe or pump blood around our bodies.

Yes, we begin to let go we can see an improvement in their lives around us. Not that we have set out to change other people, but the positive change in us affects those around us. It’s rather like throwing a pebble into a pond. The ripples extend much further out than you imagine
Reducing the Conflict around Us
In general, there will be less conflict in all our relationships because the elimination of negative blocks stops self sabotaging behavior. We depend less on intellectual knowledge and more on sentient knowledge.

Once we become less dependent on these negative feelings, we realize the more positive aspects of our nature. We become less hostile and aggressive and more outgoing and more loving. We are not holding onto guilt and shame.

Letting go of these negative emotions brings contentment and peace that can only be expressed as joy.

We Become More Limitless

Later we can let go of our perceived limitations because we have understood that it is only negativity that creates artificial barriers. We have no limitations we can achieve whatever it is we want to achieve.

Letting go of negativity is one of the most useful tools we have at our disposal. It allows us to reach our spiritual goals and develop into the limitless people that we truly are. It creates a sense of enlightenment in those around us because we raise their level of energy.

Again we have not set out to change anyone else. We can only be responsible for our own change, but any increase in positivity affects everyone around us.

I have no doubt that extraterrestrial beings looking down on us rather envy us. We get in such an angst! They must think us, so comical. We watch so many religious people follow spiritual pathways and yet we see hardly anyone realise an ultimate truth.

Our Very Confusion Is Our Salvation

It is our confusion, which is our humanness and our hope. If you are confused you are still free! Life is not about finding the answers but by looking at the basis of the problem and unravelling it.

The mechanism of surrender is simple, it doesn’t involve any dogma or belief system. It’s based on understanding yourself. It works for spiritual people, non-spiritual people, believers and nonbelievers.

You make yourself safe by freeing yourself from disillusionment. You work out how your mind has been programmed and your belief systems. You are your own guru, your own teacher.

What you are searching for is already a part of yourself, it has been a part of yourself since time began. Letting go, doesn’t mean acquiring new beliefs or new ideas.

It is already yours deep within yourself. It may have been buried so deep you can’t even remember it ever being there. No matter how deep it is hidden it is there waiting to be uncovered in all its glory. What you’re looking for is your own inner feelings and experiences.

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