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Are you being held back by self limiting beliefs?
Can you hear that little voice in the head that nags? The one that never quite goes away!
You may not be able to hear it at the moment.
Perhaps you not have heard it this week.
You may have heard it 10 times this morning.
That nagging whining voice can say a lot of things. It might say
“I don’t deserve it”
“This is not for me”
“I don’t deserve to have money”
“That’s for rich people not me”
Most people listen to this nagging voice. Trust me, we all have it to some extent. Some people are crippled by this nagging voice.
Ironically, this nagging voice isn’t yours! It represents a belief system that you believe in that’s for sure. Unfortunately, it doesn’t represent your beliefs!
Most of these beliefs come from other people. You may have heard your aunt say to your mother as a child something like:
” Harry has lost his job again. I don’t know how long it will take him to get another one. And even if he does how long will he keep it”.
Let’s say you were three years of age when you hear that and you’re sitting next to your mum on the sofa. You have long since forgotten that physical memory.
Your subconscious will never forget it. Your subconscious lives in the past where it is comfortable, and it registered several things from this statement.
It registered a belief that money is hard to come by. How did it do that? Well, what it heard was the fact that it is hard to keep a job.
It didn’t hear that the comment was only about Harry. It didn’t hear or take into consideration the context. It doesn’t care about the circumstances it just registered a limiting belief.
That limiting belief that money is hard to come by has haunted you for your whole life.
You have this feeling that money is hard to come by and it follows you around. It’s wrapped itself
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Feelings are like waves they come all the time, but you can choose which ones to surf!
You can also overcome those limiting beliefs they don’t have to drag you down your whole life.
If you find yourself saying “it’s all my fault” all the time, then you are living in an endless cycle of shame.
The problem with living in this cycle is that you are surrounded by blackness and negativity. You simply cannot see the light all the way forward.
Maybe as a teenager, you were told that taking responsibility for your actions was a good thing. Indeed it often is a sign of maturity.
When you have taken responsibility for this internal conflict that is raging inside you then this is not a sign of either maturity or sense.
The reason for this is that it’s not possible to have a conflict in the singular, conflict is always pleural. You may have heard the expression “He can start a fight in an empty room, but how many wars have been started and fought with just one side. Even a civil war takes two sides!
So the expression “it’s all my fault all of the time”, is an oxymoron.
To make matters worse self sabotaging has nothing to do with responsibility but everything to do with avoiding the situation.
If you take the negative blame and cocoon yourself in the misery that surrounds you as a result of this then you are incapable of making anything better. You are totally paralysed. You are gripped in an irrational fear. This fear prevents you from growing and changing.
You avoid analysing what went wrong and how. Instead of projecting blame onto other people which is also a kind of self sabotaging we take the blame ourselves.
So it’s a good idea to have a look at why you take the blame. Because, chances are this has become a habit. To break that habit you need to understand what benefits you receive from self sabotage.
By becoming the victim you make yourself powerless. Worse than that you project that powerlessness onto other people and become a leech.
You’ve all heard the expression that we attract what we think about most. In this
It will come as no surprise to any of you that when you are in that mode you attract only people who are negative. You attract people who blame themselves. People are drawn to you who were also powerless. The universe is indiscriminate it gives you what you want.
In this case, you want a lack of power. You want to self sabotage yourself.
Can I break the pattern?
Blaming our self can become totally addictive. It’s quite easy to bury our self in self sabotage. This behavior can be a result of your parents never encouraging you or allowing you to shine.
Sometimes even the best of parents, the ones who really love their children can instill this self sabotaging belief.
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Can this be treated?
There are ways to treat it with therapy. However, in my experience, all of this self sabotage is a result of programming. Much of this programming can be rewound during soul clearance session.
It allows us to more deeply collect with who we are. We are connected at every level at all times to everyone else on the planet.
After a soul clearance session, we can move forward. We find that we are more compassionate to others. We show greater empathy toward others and a greater understanding.
Even when we were so bogged down by negativity before we couldn’t see the wood for the trees quite literally.
Suddenly you can take a positive look at your potential. You no longer seem so small you seem bigger in your own eyes. Book your treatment here
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